October: A Month of Remembrance and Compassion
- Victoria Chavez
- Oct 8
- 3 min read
October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month — a time to honor the quiet grief carried by so many parents and families. It’s estimated that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, yet the pain often remains unspoken, wrapped in silence and misunderstood compassion (March of Dimes).
At PureLife Organic Inc., we believe grief deserves sacred space. This month invites us to remember, reflect, and heal — not by erasing the loss, but by learning how to hold it with gentleness and ritual care.
The Emotional Landscape of Loss
Pregnancy and infant loss touch every part of being — body, mind, and spirit. The journey is unique to each parent, but common threads weave through:
Shock and disbelief in the early days after loss.
Guilt and blame, often misplaced, as the mind searches for reason.
Isolation, when others don’t know what to say or how to support.
Physical reminders, as the body continuing to shift and heal after pregnancy.
This grief is both invisible and immense. It does not fade quickly — it changes shape over time. Healing is not forgetting; it is finding ways to remember with peace.
Healing the Spirit Through Ritual and Nature
Grief has no timeline, but rituals offer a way to express what words cannot.
1. Light as Memory
Each October 15th, families around the world take part in the Wave of Light — lighting candles at 7 PM local time to create a continuous wave of remembrance across time zones.
Ritual: Light a candle in your child’s name. As the flame flickers, whisper gratitude for their brief presence in your life.
2. Herbal Bath of Release
Warm water and herbs can cradle the heart in difficult moments.Combine rose petals, chamomile, and lavender in a muslin pouch. Add to a warm bath.Soak quietly. Breathe. Imagine releasing the pain that clings to your spirit.
Suggested PureLife Companions:
Holistica Candle Collection for light and ritual.
Calming Roll-On to ease anxiety.
Anxiety & Angst Tonic for gentle emotional support.
3. Creating a Living Tribute
Planting a tree, nurturing a flower garden, or tending a single plant allows love to transform into growth.Each bloom becomes a living memory — a symbol of continuity and renewal.
4. Tea of Comfort
Herbal teas can support the body and spirit through grief.
Ingredients: Chamomile, lemon balm, rose hips, and honey.Sip slowly, letting warmth settle into your chest as you breathe peace back into your body.
PureLife Suggestion: Herbal Sleep Tea / Comfort Blend
The Role of Community and Compassion
Healing from loss requires community. Compassion is not found in perfect words, but in presence — a quiet listening ear, a hand held without demand, a shared candle flame.
If you are supporting someone through loss:
Listen without fixing.
Offer gentle, practical help (meals, errands, child care).
Remember anniversaries and due dates — a simple acknowledgment can mean everything.
Gentle Herbal Allies for the Grieving Heart
Herbs can offer comfort without words. Their scents, flavors, and energetics help anchor the soul during emotional storms.
Consult your healthcare provider before using herbal supplements, especially during postpartum recovery or if taking medication.
Resources for Support
You are not alone. Compassionate resources are available for those grieving pregnancy or infant loss:
Share Pregnancy & Infant Loss Support
The Compassionate Friends
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep
Postpartum Support International
Closing Reflection
Pregnancy and infant loss reshape the heart, but love remains eternal.Let this month be a sanctuary — a space for remembrance, light, and slow healing.May your rituals bring you peace, your herbs bring comfort, and your community remind you that even in loss, you are not alone.
Explore PureLife’s Holistic Healing Collection for handcrafted herbal and aromatherapy companions to support rest, calm, and reflection.
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